The nature is waking up after the cold winter months and it's getting ready for the new season. Hu,ams should do the same. Spring is perfect time for whole body & mind detox, time for leaving the past, time for new beginnings. There are so many guides for spring detox on the internet. But not only our physical bodies need to detox. Our mind deserves the same thing. We are overwhelmed by thoughts which are asking for the attention all the time. We're stressed, we're under pressure, living in the past and afraid what future holds. If you have these feelings sometimes, it's the right time for a mental detox :)
I'm a person, who lives in the past for quite a long time. "When I was in Paris ..." "Anyway, the Netherlands was the best ..." "I'd love to come back in time, two years ago was the best time ever ..."
When I start talking about some of these things, my brother always stops me "Yeah, I know. You've already told me."
I don't only talk about these memories, I also think about them all the time. I listen to "All I want" by Kodaline and I remember about my first kiss or I play "C'est la vie" and in my mind I'm back at prom. I'm dancing in a circle with my friends, all around us there are drunk teachers and fourteen years old girls who are freaking excited about their first time drinking alcohol in public.
I don't think we should forget about our memories and try to get them out of our heads. I don't understand girls who burn oil romantic letters and photos ...
The problem beggins when you live more in the past then in the present moment. When the memories have power over you. When you constantly think about situations which belong to the past and which you can't repeat. When you repent yourself, when you regret that you could do something a bit differently in a bit better way, that you could enjoy the moment a bit more ...
STOP IT.
It doesn't matter now. You can't change the past and a year from now you can be sitting here and regret about today, when you were just complaining and dreaming about travelling back in time. T
Something went wront, you don't really know why and that keeps you turning back, thinking if something could be different if ... If what? If you'd been "trying" more? If you'd been smiling more? If you'd been ignoring their mistakes a bit more? If you'd put their feelings on the first place and forget about your needs and emotions?
It's hard to admit, that some people come to your life just to makee you realize something about yourself. I've always had a problem with this. In case of boys, friends ... I always used to think about what went wrong and why. And something couldn't be differnet if one of us had behaved in a different way.
But I believe, that people who belong to your life, won't leave. And the others ... come into your life and leave before you even notice it. It's not your faul and not even theirs if they can't appreciate who you really are. They live in their own little world, they see world through different point of view.
We all need to learn to forgive and let go. We can't forgive anyone, it doesn't work like that. Imagine that we all have kind of "tap" inside of our heart, that keeps our emotions inside. You can't turn the tap of someone else, you can only do it with yours. Fully enable the tap and release all the emotional posion, all the anger, regrets you feel towards other people and towards yourself.
Don't be afraid to express you emotions. Do not try to keep them inside. Scream, cry, go for a run or do some kickboxing to get rid of all the negative emotions. Enjoy feeling bad. I know it sounds weird, but it works. Instead of trying to enable the tap one step at a time, go cold turkey and get rid of the feelings once and forever.
You don't have to change your hair after every unsuccessful period. If everyone did that, all the people arond the would would be bold. You can buy some new clothes, wear different make or stop wearing makeup at all. Do you wear pants most of the time? Then wear skirt more ...
Another great way to say goodbye to your past, is to get rid of stuff you have at your home. Do you have many things at home, that you don't use at all? Throw them away! Sell, donate, break, destroy ... It's a great feeling, trust me. Start with your wardrobe and say goodbye to clothes you haven't worn for a long time. Keep only the pieces which make you feel comfortable, sttractive and confident - and which fit you as well. Put the rest of the clothes into boxes or bags, give them to your friends, family, or sell them or donate them. Then do the same thing with kitchenware. Do you really need dozens of battered glasses and mugs with broken handles?
Also you can throw away old notebooks, pens, books you have never read, cosmetics you neve use etc. Do you think you'll ever need your notes from chemistry class if you study music history now? Or do you really feel so closely connected with a doll from McDonal's?
With every single thing that leaves your door, you're getting more space for new things not only in your house but in your life as well. You'll feel more relaxed, more free, more organized and you'll have more energy to start a new (better) life :)
I'm a person, who lives in the past for quite a long time. "When I was in Paris ..." "Anyway, the Netherlands was the best ..." "I'd love to come back in time, two years ago was the best time ever ..."
When I start talking about some of these things, my brother always stops me "Yeah, I know. You've already told me."
I don't only talk about these memories, I also think about them all the time. I listen to "All I want" by Kodaline and I remember about my first kiss or I play "C'est la vie" and in my mind I'm back at prom. I'm dancing in a circle with my friends, all around us there are drunk teachers and fourteen years old girls who are freaking excited about their first time drinking alcohol in public.
I don't think we should forget about our memories and try to get them out of our heads. I don't understand girls who burn oil romantic letters and photos ...
The problem beggins when you live more in the past then in the present moment. When the memories have power over you. When you constantly think about situations which belong to the past and which you can't repeat. When you repent yourself, when you regret that you could do something a bit differently in a bit better way, that you could enjoy the moment a bit more ...
STOP IT.
It doesn't matter now. You can't change the past and a year from now you can be sitting here and regret about today, when you were just complaining and dreaming about travelling back in time. T
Forgive
Let's say you had met someone some time ago. You It had looked pretty nice, you'd thouhght that the person is "the one" But then something went wrong and the relationship didn't really work out. Now your only communication is wishing happy birthday on facebook once a year.Something went wront, you don't really know why and that keeps you turning back, thinking if something could be different if ... If what? If you'd been "trying" more? If you'd been smiling more? If you'd been ignoring their mistakes a bit more? If you'd put their feelings on the first place and forget about your needs and emotions?
It's hard to admit, that some people come to your life just to makee you realize something about yourself. I've always had a problem with this. In case of boys, friends ... I always used to think about what went wrong and why. And something couldn't be differnet if one of us had behaved in a different way.
But I believe, that people who belong to your life, won't leave. And the others ... come into your life and leave before you even notice it. It's not your faul and not even theirs if they can't appreciate who you really are. They live in their own little world, they see world through different point of view.
We all need to learn to forgive and let go. We can't forgive anyone, it doesn't work like that. Imagine that we all have kind of "tap" inside of our heart, that keeps our emotions inside. You can't turn the tap of someone else, you can only do it with yours. Fully enable the tap and release all the emotional posion, all the anger, regrets you feel towards other people and towards yourself.
Don't be afraid to express you emotions. Do not try to keep them inside. Scream, cry, go for a run or do some kickboxing to get rid of all the negative emotions. Enjoy feeling bad. I know it sounds weird, but it works. Instead of trying to enable the tap one step at a time, go cold turkey and get rid of the feelings once and forever.
New Image
What helps me a lot when I'm having a bad time and I wanna create a new beginning, is to change physically. The more visible, the better. Usually I change my hair. It's said that women usually change their hairstyle when they get divorced with a partner. I change my hair every time I feel kind of lost in my own life and I feel like I can't even take a breath. When I'm sitting in that chair at hair studio and I see the hair falling down to the floor, I'm notionally cut off my past.You don't have to change your hair after every unsuccessful period. If everyone did that, all the people arond the would would be bold. You can buy some new clothes, wear different make or stop wearing makeup at all. Do you wear pants most of the time? Then wear skirt more ...
Declutter
Another great way to say goodbye to your past, is to get rid of stuff you have at your home. Do you have many things at home, that you don't use at all? Throw them away! Sell, donate, break, destroy ... It's a great feeling, trust me. Start with your wardrobe and say goodbye to clothes you haven't worn for a long time. Keep only the pieces which make you feel comfortable, sttractive and confident - and which fit you as well. Put the rest of the clothes into boxes or bags, give them to your friends, family, or sell them or donate them. Then do the same thing with kitchenware. Do you really need dozens of battered glasses and mugs with broken handles?
Also you can throw away old notebooks, pens, books you have never read, cosmetics you neve use etc. Do you think you'll ever need your notes from chemistry class if you study music history now? Or do you really feel so closely connected with a doll from McDonal's?
With every single thing that leaves your door, you're getting more space for new things not only in your house but in your life as well. You'll feel more relaxed, more free, more organized and you'll have more energy to start a new (better) life :)
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