How would you like to die? Fall asleep ... and not to wake up anymore. I guess most of us wish this. This is how it's supposed to be. This is natural. But it doesn't look like that nowadays.
Death is something that most of people are fraid of. It doesn't matter if you're Buddhist, Christian, Muslim or you call yourself an atheist. No matter what you believe in, nobody really know what's after this life. We all can just guess. Nobody who has "experienced" death, will ever tell us, how did it feel. And what's then.
What is death? Is it just a moment or doesn it take some time? How does the soul leave the body? And where does it go? Will we ever see our family and our friends again? Will we feel anything anymore or is there just infinite darkness? In the book "Passion for the Impossible", Osho says that nothing like death exists. Nobody knows what death is, so maybe it's not real at all. It's an illusion. Only the people who "stay in this world" feel that and the life of the "dead" person continues. Maybe just a bit different way. Whichever theory is true, death is a part of our lives.
In one book I read that Australian Aborigines who reach really high age, can "decide" when they want to leave this world. They just lie down, fall asleep ... and do not wake up anymore. Nowadays, our medical care is so advanced, that it actually changed the way people die. We're dying in hospitals, with all the medical devices all around us. We're dying alone.
We can "save" a baby as small as a palm and we can save 90 years old man who gets a heart attack. We put them on ventilators, we give them "artificial" feeding ... We think we can outwit the nature and the natural life circle. But we will never be able to do that, no matter how much we try. We just deny the change to leave this world peacefully and with dignity.
I know it's not easy. Perhaps it's unsolvable dilemma and you are going to blame yourself whether you decide to let your loved one go or you try to "save" him/her. If I saw my parents or close friends dying, I would try to help them any possible way. Because saying goodbye is extremely hard for me. Especially if I knew there's a chance to help them. To keep them here for a little bit longer. To feel they're still here with me. To be able to look at their eyes until they close forever. To extend that moment ... But is this the true love, when you keep somebody in a coma, where they can't do anything on their own and you are just more and more depressed and broken. Is it really the best option for a ninety years old person to keep him lying in the hospital?
I believe that we all have defined time on this planet to accomplish our "mission". And we should recognize when the time is coming. Some people put up with it better than others. But I think there must be a sign. Something, that tells you, that the life is over. And in that moment, the only thing we - as the friends or family - can do, is to say goodbye. To take their hand and tell them, it's their choice. That they can stay or they can leave. That their life was worth it. That we understand that. That we love them ♥
Death is something that most of people are fraid of. It doesn't matter if you're Buddhist, Christian, Muslim or you call yourself an atheist. No matter what you believe in, nobody really know what's after this life. We all can just guess. Nobody who has "experienced" death, will ever tell us, how did it feel. And what's then.
What is death? Is it just a moment or doesn it take some time? How does the soul leave the body? And where does it go? Will we ever see our family and our friends again? Will we feel anything anymore or is there just infinite darkness? In the book "Passion for the Impossible", Osho says that nothing like death exists. Nobody knows what death is, so maybe it's not real at all. It's an illusion. Only the people who "stay in this world" feel that and the life of the "dead" person continues. Maybe just a bit different way. Whichever theory is true, death is a part of our lives.
In one book I read that Australian Aborigines who reach really high age, can "decide" when they want to leave this world. They just lie down, fall asleep ... and do not wake up anymore. Nowadays, our medical care is so advanced, that it actually changed the way people die. We're dying in hospitals, with all the medical devices all around us. We're dying alone.
We can "save" a baby as small as a palm and we can save 90 years old man who gets a heart attack. We put them on ventilators, we give them "artificial" feeding ... We think we can outwit the nature and the natural life circle. But we will never be able to do that, no matter how much we try. We just deny the change to leave this world peacefully and with dignity.
I know it's not easy. Perhaps it's unsolvable dilemma and you are going to blame yourself whether you decide to let your loved one go or you try to "save" him/her. If I saw my parents or close friends dying, I would try to help them any possible way. Because saying goodbye is extremely hard for me. Especially if I knew there's a chance to help them. To keep them here for a little bit longer. To feel they're still here with me. To be able to look at their eyes until they close forever. To extend that moment ... But is this the true love, when you keep somebody in a coma, where they can't do anything on their own and you are just more and more depressed and broken. Is it really the best option for a ninety years old person to keep him lying in the hospital?
I believe that we all have defined time on this planet to accomplish our "mission". And we should recognize when the time is coming. Some people put up with it better than others. But I think there must be a sign. Something, that tells you, that the life is over. And in that moment, the only thing we - as the friends or family - can do, is to say goodbye. To take their hand and tell them, it's their choice. That they can stay or they can leave. That their life was worth it. That we understand that. That we love them ♥
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