Wednesday morning. I'm standing in front of the mirror, I'm feeling proud of myself for finally learning how to wear skirts and at the same time I'm wondering - should I put makeup on or not? My skin doesn't look very good right now. Stress around school, holiday, my driving lessons ... All those things joined together and affected my skin.
I'm watching all of my pimples, scars, dark circles under my eyes ... and then I finally realize that: None of these things matter at all !
But there are other ways to create your reality. You can wake up in the morning, smile at your reflection in the mirror and accept how you look today. Promise your body to take care of it all day long and give it all the love it deserves. And then you can leave the house, let the world see your (im)perfections and be grateful for another day and another opportunity to turn your flaws into your strenghts. No matter if you have problematic skin, freckles all around your face, big booty, thick eyebrows or scars on your body. It doesn't make sense to feel ashamed of these things. They are just part of our body, they are not us. We are much more than that.
We've been learning to "disconnect" from our own body since we were kids. We got used to the fact that other people know better how we feel (or how we should feel). Parents, grandmas, aunties, teachers at school ... "Put on the jacket! You must be cold!" "You haven't eaten anything since morning - you must be hungry!" "Why are you wearing sweater? It's warm outside." ... We are learning to ignore the signals of our body, we loose the connection. Other people know better when it's cold or warm, when we're hungry and when we should feel full.
So we learn to eat at particular hour no matter if we're hungry or not. We torture our body in the gym even if we feel totally exhausted and our body is calling for a break. We don't know how to relax and we feel like we need to do something all the time - we have so many things to do after all! When we get cold and our throat gets sore, we take a "miracle" pill instead of being interested what caused the disease. We fight against out body, like if it was our enemy but at the same time, if something is not "perfect" about our body, we feel like we're all just "wrong".
Give your body freedom.
... and so I brushed my hear, put on my sandals and went outside. Nobody was watching me. Nobody was pointing at me and laughing. And if so .. I didn't notice. I wouldn't care anyway. Because in that moment, I was finally happy with who I am.
I'm watching all of my pimples, scars, dark circles under my eyes ... and then I finally realize that: None of these things matter at all !
No matter how hard I tried to change this, I used to care a lot about other people and their opinion. What they think about my look, about the things I say ... I was afraid to be "weird", to be too different from others. And I wasn't able to understand that this is just an illustion I created in my own head.
If you tell yourself "I look ugly. Everybody thinks I'm ugly.", it becomes your reality. With these thoughts on your mind, every time someone starts laughing behind your back, you will think that it's because of you - even though they may be talking about that drunk friend who fell out of a swing at a party last night. If you keep creating these beliefs, you will simply always think that everyone is watching you and waiting for you to fail.
If you tell yourself "I look ugly. Everybody thinks I'm ugly.", it becomes your reality. With these thoughts on your mind, every time someone starts laughing behind your back, you will think that it's because of you - even though they may be talking about that drunk friend who fell out of a swing at a party last night. If you keep creating these beliefs, you will simply always think that everyone is watching you and waiting for you to fail.
But there are other ways to create your reality. You can wake up in the morning, smile at your reflection in the mirror and accept how you look today. Promise your body to take care of it all day long and give it all the love it deserves. And then you can leave the house, let the world see your (im)perfections and be grateful for another day and another opportunity to turn your flaws into your strenghts. No matter if you have problematic skin, freckles all around your face, big booty, thick eyebrows or scars on your body. It doesn't make sense to feel ashamed of these things. They are just part of our body, they are not us. We are much more than that.
Once your stop worrying about what other people think of you, you may notice that actually nobody cares if you have messy hair, sunburn on your cheeks or a little hole in your t-shirt. Nobody gives a damn. They have enough of their own troubles in their own lifes.
So we learn to eat at particular hour no matter if we're hungry or not. We torture our body in the gym even if we feel totally exhausted and our body is calling for a break. We don't know how to relax and we feel like we need to do something all the time - we have so many things to do after all! When we get cold and our throat gets sore, we take a "miracle" pill instead of being interested what caused the disease. We fight against out body, like if it was our enemy but at the same time, if something is not "perfect" about our body, we feel like we're all just "wrong".
Forget about tight jeans, uncomfortable string panties, push-up bras (or maybe free your nipples completely?) and pumps which make your feet sore like you went for a instense hike. Wear what you love, what makes you feel comfortable and beautiful. Hide your make-up, eyeshadows, mascaras and lipsticks into a box and try to forget about them at least for few days. Let your skin feel the cool breeze and the warm sun rays touching your cheeks ...
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